Saturday, 21 September 2019

CELEBRATION; LOVE, LIFE, MEMORIES





It was a year ago, in England, on a late summer’s day; Saturday 15th September 2018 to be exact. Helen, my lovely bride’s sister, was getting married to Elaine. And when they tied the knot in front of family and friends, it was a day worthy of celebration. We also celebrated the lives of the brides’ fathers whilst cutting the cake. Sadly, Jack and Les are no longer with us; and yet there they were, front and centre, with photos of their handsome faces smiling back at their daughters by the cake. It truly was a day when love was celebrated in all its glory. A day that showed all in attendance that love is love and it really is all around us.  Their dads can rest easy knowing they love, and are loved, by each other.


Now, one year later, Helen, Elaine, Jane and I had more milestones to celebrate; to do so, we all met up in Mexico. We celebrated love and life once again. Jane and I had our 33rd anniversary, Helen her 50th birthday and Helen and Elaine’s 1st anniversary. And where better to do all this than in paradise itself. 


For me, personally, it was an opportunity to spend some time with Elaine. Usually when we go back to England, to visit everyone, the pace is brisk to say the least. It is a time when Elaine is constantly busy with all the laundry and the ironing and the putting of the kettle on and the making of teas and coffees; she never stops! But here, under beautiful Mexican skies, we had a chance to chat and chuckle and get to know each other better. Helen has certainly picked someone special with Elaine; a beautiful lady inside and out.


The Yucatán Peninsular is spectacular; especially along the Maya Riviera. No need to search for paradise anymore; we found it just south of Playa del Carmen, Quintana Roo, Mexico. Sun, sand, cervezas and celebrations! And when that sun rises above the horizon of the Caribbean Sea it’s a sight to behold! On the beach at 9:00PM we watched newly hatched turtles scurry from their nests towards the sea under the light of a full moon. More new life happening right before our eyes.


Cervezas and sunrises, mimosas and full moons, milestones acknowledged and memories made; enough to last a lifetime.

Saturday, 16 June 2018

MOTHERS' DAY & FATHERS' DAY; CARPE DIEM




My late dad & mum ~~~ Alan & Amy Freeman during their better days



Fathers’ Day tomorrow!

But first; Mothers’ Day.  Mothers’ Day is an age-old tradition; for me it’s a Christian thing because in England it always falls on the fourth Sunday of Lent, halfway through Lenten Season.  Here in Canada and the United States it’s celebrated on the second Sunday in May.  Fathers’ Day also has a long history, though not as long as Mothering Sunday.  I’m only aware of celebrating fathers on the third Sunday in June but I know it has other dates in other countries.

My lovely bride, Jane, and I celebrated our first parent-type day on Mothers' Day 1990.  This year we’re both celebrating our 28th Mothers' Day and Fathers' Day!  During these events we have received many gifts and tributes from our three kids, Martin, Zoe and Alex; all adults in their own rite now.   Over the years they have made us proud, made us feel loved, taken us to levels of frustration I didn’t know were imaginable, blessed us always with their individual triumphs, required our assistance in the capacity of emergency-response-team and the list goes on.  However, like with any true relationship, it's a reciprocal one. 

Last year my son, Martin, and my youngest daughter, Alex, joined me at my airline’s annual golf tournament in Toronto.  Martin flew all the way across the country from Vancouver Island in British Columbia to join us.  A great day, and Alex even won lady’s closest to the pin. 

In that week after golf I almost choked to death on some raw almonds.  My fault, I put too many in my mouth and then suddenly I couldn’t breathe; my airway was blocked.  Thank God my family were all in the house.  Zoe noticed it first and called out to everyone that dad is choking and tried to clear it using the Heimlich manoeuvre; bless her heart but she wasn’t big enough to get her arms round my portly torso!  Martin took over and was heaving on me for all he’s worth, Alex picked up her phone and called 911 and Jane could only stand there holding on to Zoe and watch.  I was watching too, and I was thinking I wish I could just say that I am so sorry and I love you all very, very much but I couldn’t.  I was fading but Martin kept on heaving and eventually, as if fired from a sling-shot, something that resembled a scotch egg flew in to the air.  I still couldn’t breath.  Martin kept up his work and finally cleared the last obstruction and I could breath. 

My life was saved.  I can’t help but think of the irony that it was his mother and I that gave our children their life and in return they gave me back mine. They all had a part in it but without Martin’s size and strength I dread to think of the outcome.

On 2nd May this year at Grand Bend in Ontario our Irish Setter, Maggie, fell into a river that flows in to Lake Huron.  She went under twice and I couldn’t stand it; I leapt into the six-foot drop down to the river after her.  That water was bloody cold as well as deep and there was also a strong current.  I will save this story for another day.  The irony is this; if Martin hadn’t cleared my airway and saved my life, I wouldn’t have been there to save Maggie’s life.  I believe that is what Clarence the angel said to George Bailey in the classic Frank Capra Christmas movie, It’s a Wonderful Life. 

Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Birthday, Christmas Day, Easter Day, any day; I believe each and every day is a gift and must be treated as such.  Some people are just trying to get through their day instead of trying to get something from their day.  Some say you should live this day as if it is your last.  How about living it as your first?  Every day is another gift; it can even allow you to make a fresh start, if that’s what you need.  So, if you have to, use it as a new beginning.

Life, to me, means everything because of my beautiful family.  How lucky can a guy get?  I have three adult children who amaze me and a lovely bride who has shared my days for over 32 years.  For me, personally, my thanks do need to be to God.  But that's my belief.

Happy Fathers’ Day!

Carpe Diem.








Sunday, 31 December 2017

 

NEW YEAR, FUTURE; I SEE IT NOW! 

I will be ringing in the New Year in beautiful British Columbia (BC) on Vancouver Island; my lovely bride, Jane, and I are out here visiting with our son, Martin, and his girlfriend, Cara.  It’s the first time out here for Jane and we have even had sunshine and blue skies so she got to see the pure, natural vistas that makes BC so beautiful.  We decided to fly out from Ontario and spend this special moment in time with them.  However, Martin and I need to get our game on with respect to playing cribbage; these gals are killing us at cards!
As I type it is 15:30 here on the west coast of Canada.  Home, in Ontario, it's 18:30.  Back in England, where I moved from in 1988, it is 23:30; all my family and friends will be getting ready to bring in their future year of 2018.  Here I have still got a while to wait; in fact, we’re not even leaving to go to our celebrations for another five hours! 
On Baker Island, in the Pacific Ocean, it is barely lunch-time on New Year’s Eve, yet about 2,000 kms south-east in Apia, the capital of the Samoan Islands in Polynesia, it’s already past lunchtime on Monday 1 January 2018; at 13:30 their hangover should be well and truly a thing of their past.  Yup, they have a past where we’ve had no future as yet!  We’re just sitting here in 2017 on the west coast of Canada waiting to get to started!
The future?  Yes, I sure can see it; right now, it is on the Samoan Islands; and it looks wonderful too!
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Wherever you are in this wonderful world of ours; Happy New Year!!!

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

23 Jun 2015 ~ HAPPY BIRTHDAY; ANOTHER JOURNEY ROUND THE SUN


 
LIVING AND LAUGHING ROUND THE SUN

 Once more I go, round the sun; keep living and laughing everyone!

Life’s journey’s shorter than ye think, so dither not,

lest ye upon that final blink, discover life is done.

 ~~~  Paul Freeman 23 June 2015  ~~~
 
 
I am somewhat overwhelmed by all the birthday wishes.  It is quite humbling, really.  In this digital era there sure are many different ways to communicate. 
 
Greetings were received, through Skype, from as far away as Moscow, Russia and Shymkent, Kazakhstan as well as places in the United States.
 
A lot of birthday wishes came from friends and also my Liverpool family on Facebook.  I even got a text message from my ‘techno-grandma-mum-in-law’, Brenda. 
 
Friends, made through my profession, that are now friends on Facebook, also sent me wishes from places afar; Ecuador, Germany and Holland.  There were even greetings, by way of LinkedIn, from some of my professional colleagues. 
 
Truly remarkable the way our world is so connected in this day and age.  I am happy and humbled, indeed; and I thank everyone that cared enough to brighten my day with their (mostly) kind words!
 
My birthday started with breakfast in bed whilst unwrapping gifts and reading cards.  So what, you may ask, does one get for a guy who has been on this beautiful planet for 2.85 score years?  Fear not; a selection of Britain’s finest ales (thank you Zoe), a selection of bold dark-roast coffees (thank you Martin) and a commitment to take me golfing, which includes beer and hot dog (thank you Alex) fits the bill perfectly.  Even my lovely bride of almost 29 years got me a power tool <insert manly-man type grunt here>; it is an oscillating saw (thank you Jane).  I think that the key here is to ensure that I use this after drinking the coffee and not the beer…
 
After these early morning festivities were complete, I bade farewell to my lovely bride, Jane, as she took my 20-year old youngest daughter, Alex, to the hospital for some surgery to remove her tonsils (that’s gotta hurt!).  Zoe was the designated driver for this mission; she is my 21-year old daughter and has “been there and done that” earlier this year.
 
Once they were safely on their way, I headed for the fang-snatchers (dentist) for my 65th filling on this, my 57th birthday (maybe not quite that many… fillings that is – not birthdays).  Upon arrival I collected my mobile phone’s voice mail from my son, Martin, who got up extra early on Vancouver Island, British Columbia, to wish me a happy birthday; I wasn't able to answer my phone whilst driving - it's the law!
 
For those of you that are about to celebrate your birthday, and are fortunate to still have their mother gracing this planet of ours, I would like to give you some good advice… remember to call your mum on your birthday; it’s a big day for her too.  Sadly, at 57, I do not have that option anymore.  But if you do; do it.  You won’t regret it; I promise.
 
In closing, I believe that God's greatest gift bestowed on me is the gift of life.  I have also had the very good fortune to share this most precious gift with some wonderful people; friends and family.  If you're reading this and you are in my life, I thank you for that.

Tuesday, 31 March 2015

AVIATION, “ANSWERS AND JUSTICE”; AND PERSPECTIVE

I’m angry. 
As a Canadian licenced Aircraft Maintenance Engineer (AME), aviation has been my life; from twelve years in the Royal Air Force (RAF), to being an apprentice in Canada after I emigrated from England, to my time as a licenced AME. 
In recent times we have been plagued by tragic incidents in aviation; very tragic indeed.  In light of this, I felt compelled to address what has transpired in the last seven days. 
 
Tuesday, 24 March 2015
Flight 9525 Germanwings ~ Airbus A-320
Passengers         144
Crew                     6
TOTAL                  150         all killed
RESULT                                more broken hearts than anyone could
                                              possibly imagine
 
Sunday, 29 March 2015
Flight 624 Air Canada ~ Airbus A-320
Passengers         133
Crew                     5
TOTAL                  138         all walked away alive
RESULT                                class action lawsuit to sue for ‘physical
                                              and psychological harm’
 
They walked away!  Perspective?  I’m not so sure.
 
The following is a clip from an article (Gulliver Business Travel) in The Economist...
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Britta Englisch, who flew with the airline the day after the crash, posted her experience on Facebook (translated from German):
“Yesterday morning at 8:40am, I got onto a Germanwings flight from Hamburg to Cologne with mixed feelings. But then the captain not only welcomed each passenger separately, he also made a short speech before take-off. Not from the cockpit, he was standing in the cabin.
He spoke about how the accident touched him and the whole crew. About how queasy the crew feels, but that everybody from the crew is voluntarily here. And about his family, and that the crew have a family, and that he is going to do everything to be with his family again tonight. It was completely silent. And then everybody applauded. I want to thank this pilot. He understood what everybody was thinking. And he managed to give me, at least, a good feeling for this flight.”
The pilot, Frank Woiton, also volunteered to operate the Barcelona to Düsseldorf route the day after it ended in disaster.
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I am sure that his late colleague, Captain Patrick Sondenheimer from flight 9525, would have been proud of Captain Frank Woiton’s approach to the passengers. 
Just wishing I could say the same for the passengers of flight 624 who have chosen to sue Air Canada for their physical and psychological harm.  Some of these passengers are, apparently, “seeking answers and justice”.  I have one answer for them; they walked away.  If you want more answers and justice, perhaps you can start by asking the bereaved relatives of flight 9525.
And that’s why I’m angry.
 
 

Wednesday, 4 March 2015

TIME AND TIDE; AND BIRTHDAYS AND WONDERMENT






And so it goes…

Time and tide wait for no man” ~~~ Chaucer (but probably much before that)

Interestingly, when talking about tide, it is not the actual tide from the ocean, but as I understand it, the seasons of the year.  A shame really, I would have also liked to quote King Canute, the great Dane who commanded the oceanic tide to recede.  In fact I think I will; it went something like this…

Go back.  Go backel.  Go blobble.  Go globblee-ooble-blebble

I’ve been itching to write.  But so busy!  How come, at almost 57, I am busier than when I was a younger man?  I simply don’t get it.  But onwards…
Today’s a special day.  Today my eldest daughter, and middle child, has reached a milestone; twenty-one.  Twenty-one today!  Her birthday day started when she left our home to drive on highway 402 to Alvinston to go to work.  It was only last week that the highway was closed because of the snow (again); bloody winter has been a right royal pain this ‘tide’.  It’s about a forty minute drive and Zoe made it safe and sound.  Tonight Zoe will be accompanying me to a Neil Diamond concert; she’s not too keen on it but agreed to go.  Not sure what the big deal is here; I enjoyed his music when I was twenty-one.  In fact I grew up with his music.  The times have changed, I guess; but not the tides.
Last evening, her mother (that’s my lovely bride, Jane) and I were going through the “photo box” to grab some photos that I could put together with a medley and plonk it on Facebook; done.  Whilst searching, I got a brief look at my life.  Wow!  I mean WOW!  Have I really managed to come along that far?  How marvellous it was to see where that young fella that only lived for himself and his beer, beloved football (soccer), beer, music, beer, etc. has come.  A long way indeed.
Although my blog is about me, this day is really about Zoe.  I know she doesn’t want to go to the Neil Diamond concert tonight because it really isn’t her ‘thing’.  But I am grateful that she is and that she will get to see, first-hand, an artist that truly moves and inspires me with his music and words; some of his lyrics are quite profound; just listen intently to ‘I am, I said’ or ‘Stones’ or ‘Beautiful Noise’.   I have been playing his music on my stereo (yup; still got one), iTunes and guitar for ever.
So happy twenty-first birthday to my middle child and eldest daughter, Zoe Jane Freeman.  You have grown in to a wonderful young lady.  You are now a college graduate and working girl.  Who knows what awaits you in your future.  And you have to look to your future; that’s where you’re going to spend the rest of your life.  Enjoy your next trip around the sun, Zoe!
There was a time when I wasn’t so sure that my future would follow the path trod by so many others; find a partner, fall in love, get married, raise a family.  But I have done so and am proud and content with my lot.  I am still married to my lovely bride after twenty-eight years, all three of my kids are now adults; the eldest one, and only son, is in the Royal Canadian Air Force, one is a working girl with the school board and the youngest is finding her way, progressing through university.  I wonder what goes on in their heads!  I wonder if their thoughts and musings get as deep as their dear old dad.
I wonder…
 

Sunday, 9 November 2014

REMEMBRANCE; A RANT AND SOME RECOLLECTIONS


 
This is a significant time of year. We gather our harvest from the fields and we give thanks for our abundant, bountiful crop. We celebrate this harvest in our places of worship, to a higher source; for me that is our Lord God and the harvests are gifts from God. I respect that for you it may be something that differs with my input here. This has to, and must be, respected too. 

And now it is time to recognise Armistice Day, or Remembrance Day; an occasion on 11th November that crosses all cultural and religious boundaries entirely. It is, in and of itself, an act of respect and solemn reflection that is focused on all those who have ‘served’ and, in particular, those that paid the ‘ultimate sacrifice’ with their life; and again, to me, life is God’s most precious of all gifts.

Before I go any further I need to rant. Yesterday, Saturday 8th November, a bus drove by. It was advertising it’s number; it was the number 14 bus. It also advertised it destination; it was Sherwood Village. But then it also advertised the following message ~ ~ ~

‘Merry Christmas’.

Merry Christmas? It is 8th November and my local bus company is advertising yuletide messages! This does not seem right to me. Also, on the same day, the neighbouring town of London, Ontario had their annual Santa Claus Parade. Also not quite right to me. Why are we teaching our children to focus on Christmas and Santa and presents, etc. when all of the poppies have not yet been sold? Can we not, as a society, wait until we have acknowledged the men and women who have served their countries by stopping, in a moment of silence, to remember those that have fallen whilst carrying out their duties? They fought and died so that we that are left can enjoy freedom and all the privileges that freedom brings. For the love of God we must stop the incessant greed that has filtered into our societal way of thinking and put things back in to perspective. Christmas is a great celebration, but it can wait until after Remembrance. Rant over; on with my blog…

I served; twelve years with the Royal Air Force, or RAF as we call it (pronounced ‘raff’). I served without realising at the time, what an honour and a privilege it was. My service saw some testing times of their own. But they were never traumatic times; here’s a few that I remember as I write.

In the 1970s there was the firefighters’ strike in England. I wonder how many folks, reading this blog from England, can recall the military stepping in to cover for the striking firefighters. And if so; would they remember the ‘Green Goddess’? This was an affectionate term for the Bedford RLHZ Self Propelled Pump fire-engine that served in the British Armed Forces. In England we called them fire engines, not fire trucks.  

Also in the 1970s we had the IRA bombings in London, which made travelling a dodgy task for all servicemen and women in England. A lot of the bombings focused on the London transportation infrastructure. We were a prime target for the IRA; cautious times indeed.

There were more troubled times in the late 1970s when I was posted to RAF Brüggen in, what was, West Germany. You would have thought that during those Cold War times, when based in Europe, that the threat would be coming from the ‘east’ but it wasn’t. It was coming from right there in West Germany; they were called the ‘Baader-Meinhof Group’ and they were a West German militant group with severe leanings towards the far-left. Ironically, as time went on, they became known as the Red Army Faction; yup, when abbreviated they were known as the RAF; but they weren’t the good guys. Fortunately, they were dissolved in the late 1990s.

I also found myself at RAF Gibraltar during the Falklands conflict. ‘Gib’ was a major staging post during that war. I had been there in 1977, on a detachment with my RAF base, but it was nowhere near as busy then as it was in 1982 during the Falklands war. I was only there for a few days in 1982; not on active service, but to see my sweetheart of that day. She had been sent out to ‘Gib’ at short notice and we didn’t know when she would be back. The place was a hive of activity with troops being shipped, round the clock, further south to the war itself.

So at this time of year, after we have celebrated the harvest gathering, and the kids are done with their ‘trick-or-treating’, my attention always turns to the act of remembrance. I refuse, adamantly, to even contemplate Christmas until after Remembrance Day. 

During my twelve year service career with the RAF, I expended enormous amounts of energy in the ongoing pursuit of military parade avoidance. I would do everything in my power to ensure that I would not get selected for any form of military parades. Ironically, my son is now serving in the Royal Canadian Air Force, or RCAF and Martin actually enjoys participating in military parades and derives great joy from doing so. He makes me proud. I, however, didn’t see the light until after I had left the RAF and, with my lovely bride, Jane, moved to a new life in Canada. It was only after I had stopped serving my country that I realised what an honour it had been to serve my country; and I have since not forgotten that. I have attended every possible Remembrance parade at the war memorial for the town I am in on every 11th November since 1988; the year I left the RAF and we moved to Canada. 

When my three children were younger, I always made sure that they grew up understanding the importance of this day in the year. I recall Remembrance Day 2000 with great affection; it was a Saturday. Martin had just turned 11, my girls, Zoe and Alex, were only 6 and 5 respectively. I took all three of my young children to the parade. Because this was the first Remembrance of the New Millennium, making it a significant event, the 26th Lieutenant Governor of Ontario chose a small town in Ontario in which to observe this Remembrance Day. And so it was that Sarnia was privileged to have the Honourable Hilary M. Weston CM, OOnt in attendance for this millennial event. She happened to notice, after the formal proceedings had come to an end, that there was a young(ish) man in attendance with his three children; that was me. The Lieutenant Governor took the time to walk over to us, shake hands with me and my three children, and thanked us for coming out to observe such an important event on that sunny, but crisply chilly morning. After a brief conversation she left us to talk with others; a moment in time that I’ll always remember. 

Although I served, it is clearly evident that I never suffered. At times, though, I have found myself wondering, for those that did suffer, what it must have been like. Out there on the battlefield; whether that field is the seas or the skies or the fields themselves. Every soldier of every nation was a child of someone. As Lieutenant Colonel John McCrae, of the Canadian Army Medical Corp, says so eloquently in his poem from the Great War, Flanders Fields - - - 

    We are the dead: Short days ago,

    We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,

    Loved and were loved: and now we lie

    In Flanders fields!


“Loved and were loved” are such powerful words. Everyone in all of those fields of conflict came in to this world by way of ‘love and peace’. And how tragically brutal their exit may have been. So yes, at times, I wonder what it must have been like. What I am certain of is that it is beyond my comprehension. It is my hope that every fallen soldier of every nation, whilst lying wounded with mayhem and violence all around, was able to feel that ‘love and peace’ once more before darkness and silence enveloped their very senses.

It is for that reason that I show up for the Remembrance Parade Service on 11th November every year; to honour their lives with solemn remembrance.

And Remembrance Day should always be remembered.